If one truly wishes to improve oneself,
The best way
Is to swallow those things which seem embarrassing,
Disturbing, and unjustified to one
Like something nutritious
Such as vitamins and tonics.
One should be able to tell the right from the wrong.
One should not take sides in any disputes or quarrels of others.
If possible, one should help to settle the disputes or quarrels between others.
However, one should not get involved or become entangled in the disputes or quarrels of others.
Do you wish to help others?
If you are unable to change the mind of those whom you wish to help,
And you are still determined to help them,
Then you had better change yourself and your method to give them a hand.